A new bride claims a wedding guest owes her a new wedding for upstaging her at the celebration.
The embittered bride, using the handle ignoredbride, asked members of a Reddit group if she’s right or wrong for feeling this way.
Ignoredbride described why she wasn’t pleased with friend “Anna,” who was among the bridal party of her $30,000 wedding.
“She was hugely pregnant, and didn’t refrain from showing it off. We’re both fairly young (25) and in my husband’s culture, getting pregnant before late 20s/30s, married or not, is basically a teenage pregnancy and drew ATTENTION. She also has a vibrant personality and has a way of eclipsing everyone around her. Her husband is also very tall and incredibly attractive, which drew a lot of attention,” ignoredbride wrote.
All of this soured her wedding experience, making her feel less than the star of the show on her big day.
“All anyone spoke about or of was Anna’s pregnancy and her attractive husband. Even in the line, people were asking about that ‘electric woman’ and of her pregnancy/marriage/life. When they got up to dance, all eyes were on them,” ignoredbride continued.
Bridezilla claims her pregnant bridesmaid OWES her a £30K wedding after ‘upstaging’ her on the big day with her ‘vibrant personality’ and ‘attractive husband’
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The Reddit poster said she reacted strongly to all of the attention her friend was getting, making it a terrible experience for her.
“I ended up leaving midway through the reception in tears, and never attended the next morning’s brunch. Anna and her entourage left early the next morning and also didn’t attend. I can’t even look at the pictures without crying and desperately want a do over,” ignoredbride added, in the Reddit post.
Ignoredbride thinks all her efforts went to waste and feels Anna hijacked the wedding that she spent so much effort to put together.
“I’m not a bridezilla, but this was beyond the pale. It felt like a celebration of Anna’s marriage. I’m sorry, but I put so much planning, effort, and money into this while someone that got pregnant without a thought and married spur of the moment reaped the benefits,” ignoredbride explained.
She thinks that she may have insulted Anna years back during wedding planning when she did not give Anna a way to bring her then-boyfriend, now her husband, to the wedding.
“I honestly feel like Anna owes me a wedding and did all of this as revenge for me offending her years ago. Am I wrong?”
The post recieved 988 upvotes and 879 comments since it was posted 15 days ago.
Reddit users were largely not sympathetic to ignoredbride, the original poster (OP), and showered her with criticism.
“I know, it’s like she resents Anna for not being frozen in time from the moment of OP’s engagement to her wedding three years later,” commented Reddit user sthetic. “Like, at the time she was just dating the guy in a very single way, so HOW DARE SHE reach relationships milestones at a faster rate than OP’s three-year engagement?”
“It sounds like she was jealous that Anna didn’t desire all the riches in the world and yet was still happy. She thinks she’s better than her friend and didn’t like that her friend was happy with what she would call a mediocre life,” commented kadran2262.
“The biggest clue to me was “the wedding took a full three years to plan.” Followed by, “Anna owes me another wedding,” said Reddit user ariverboatgambler. “OP is overly obsessed with her own wedding. When you put something on a pedestal that high, it’s always a disappointment.”
Some commenters compared the poster’s wedding to their own wedding experience.
“My husband and I were engaged for 2 years prior to our wedding day. He couldn’t care less about how everything looked or went, his only care was showing up. I didn’t set high expectations and knew that most likely something would go wrong, no matter how long we had to plan. We both agreed at the end of the day the most important thing was our commitment to spend the rest of our lives together,” commented red_sky_at_morning. “OP has an “I SPENT ALL THIS TIME PLANNING AND LOOKING MY BEST AND NO ONE PAID ATTENTION TO MEEEEEE!!!! WAAAAHHHHH!” stuck up jealous attitude.
Some commenters pointed out that this kind of experience happens to many women.
“I read that this is actually a semi-common thing with some brides. You spend a year or more (or THREE!) planning an event, for hours a day, and spend thousands (or tens of thousands) of dollars on the event… And then suddenly in a few hours the event is over and for many women it almost feels disappointing or underwhelming considering how much work went into planning it. I think that’s whats happening to OP (provided this is real). She is experiencing the wedding downer, and is misplacing her disappointment in all of that work essentially being done and over with now that the wedding is over, onto her friend, who really has done nothing wrong other than being a sparkling personality and visibly happily married and with child,” commented macaroniandmilk.
